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Heartwood: The Art of Living with the End in Mind

Hardcover |English |1250095980 | 9781250095985

Heartwood: The Art of Living with the End in Mind

Hardcover |English |1250095980 | 9781250095985
Overview

""We can do extraordinary things when we lead with love," Barbara Becker reminds us in her debut memoir Heartwood. When her earliest childhood friend is diagnosed with a terminal illness, Becker sets off on a quest to immerse herself in what it means to be mortal. Can we live our lives more fully knowing some day we will die? With a keen eye towards that which makes life worth living, interfaith minister, mom and perpetual seeker Barbara Becker recounts stories where life and death intersect in unexpected ways. She volunteers on a hospice floor, becomes an eager student of the many ways people find meaning at the end of life, and accompanies her parents in their final days. Becker inspires readers to live with the end in mind and proves that turning toward loss rather than away from it is the only true way to live life to its fullest. Just as with the heartwood of a tree-the central core that is no longer alive but is supported by newer growth rings-the dead become the heart of the living. With life-affirming prose, Becker helps us see that that grief is not a problem to be solved, but rather a sacred invitation--an opportunity to let go into something even greater...a love that will inform all the days of our lives"--
ISBN: 1250095980
ISBN13: 9781250095985
Author: Barbara Becker
Publisher: Flatiron Books
Format: Hardcover
PublicationDate: 2021-05-11
Language: English
PageCount: 224
Dimensions: 5.39 x 0.89 x 7.51 inches
Weight: 8.8 ounces

"We can do extraordinary things when we lead with love," Barbara Becker reminds us in her debut memoir Heartwood.

When her earliest childhood friend is diagnosed with a terminal illness, Becker sets off on a quest to immerse herself in what it means to be mortal. Can we live our lives more fully knowing some day we will die? With a keen eye towards that which makes life worth living, Barbara Becker--a perpetual seeker, a mom, and an interfaith leader--recounts stories where life and death intersect in unexpected ways. She volunteers on a hospice floor, becomes an eager student of the many ways people find meaning at the end of life, and accompanies her parents in their final days. Becker inspires readers to live with the end in mind and proves that turning toward loss rather than away from it is the only true way to live life to its fullest. Just as with the heartwood of a tree--the central core that is no longer alive yet supports the newer growth rings--the dead become an enduring source of strength to the living. With life-affirming prose, Becker helps us see that that grief is not a problem to be solved, but rather a sacred invitation--an opportunity to let go into something even greater...a love that will inform all the days of our lives.
Editorial Reviews


In Heartwood, Barbara Becker inspires us to follow our curiosity into a world that is both universal and a source of our uniqueness. And what could be better than that?--Gloria Steinem, bestselling author and activist


"Death fascinates and repels us. Barbara Becker has written a gorgeous book about it, and her writing will draw in everyone who is willing to approach the most serious topic we all must face. Becker gives the reader empathic access to some of life's peak moments, along with insights into life's biggest questions.

-
Jonathan Haidt, Professor, NYU-Stern School of Business, author of The Righteous Mind

Heartwood is a luminous book...Within the first few pages I knew I could trust Barbara Becker to navigate the holy land of death and grief and take me with her...
I have rarely read a book that left me feeling so fundamentally blessed. Highly recommended.

--
Mirabai Starr, author of Caravan of No Despair and Wild Mercy
"Both tear-jerking and joyful,
Heartwood reveals how an intimate conversation with loss can bring forth the 'forever' possible through love. Across time zones, generations, and cultural divides."


--Sarah Bowen, author of
Spiritual Rebel: A Positively Addictive Guide to Finding Deeper Perspective and Higher Purpose A powerful and exquisite book on being with dying and learning from loss that is written from the marrow of real experience and as well from the heart. It is a courageous exploration of grief, death, and release. This is a book that uplifts, instructs, inspires, and guides. -
Roshi Joan Halifax, Abbot, Upaya Zen Center
"
Heartwood is wise and moving without a wasted word.
Becker's luminous meditation on death and life is a gift to us all.
--Dave Isay, founder of StoryCorps
"
Heartwood is a gem."
--Dr. Denis Mukwege, Nobel Peace Prize laureate, author of forthcoming
The Power of Women: Learning from Resilience to Heal Our World Becker takes us on a poignant journey through her life in Heartwood. She shows us the threads connecting herself to ones who passed and with each tug on a thread we learn more about love and loss, life and death. Precious stories that have the power to move your heart,
this book is a true gift.--
Sharon Salzberg, author of Real Love and Real Change
"Becker debuts with a stirring chronicle of the events, moments, and stories that led to her reconciliation with mortality...Becker's eloquence is a salve for confronting a difficult topic...This will be a comfort for anyone contemplating their own mortality, or those in search of advice for others."--
Publishers Weekly Starred Review A graceful meditation on divine deliverance...Once firmly entrenched in our "death-shy" contemporary culture, the author is now a reassuring advocate for peace and interreligious understanding, and she views dying as an opportunity to seek enlightenment and give thanks, regardless of one's preferred spiritual path. -
Kirkus


A resource filled with wisdom and one that readers will find themselves returning to often in both good times and bad.
- Shelf Awareness An affecting and informative memoir about the lessons we can glean from life as well as death.
- Library Journal



Barbara Becker has dedicated more than twenty-five years to partnering with human-rights advocates around the world in pursuit of peace and interreligious understanding. She has worked with the United Nations, Human Rights First, the Ms. Foundation for Women, and the Grameen Bank of Bangladesh, and has participated in a delegation of Zen Peacemakers and Lakota elders in the sacred Black Hills of South Dakota. She is an ordained interfaith minister and has sat with hundreds of people as a hospice volunteer. She lives in New York City with her husband and two sons.

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Overview

""We can do extraordinary things when we lead with love," Barbara Becker reminds us in her debut memoir Heartwood. When her earliest childhood friend is diagnosed with a terminal illness, Becker sets off on a quest to immerse herself in what it means to be mortal. Can we live our lives more fully knowing some day we will die? With a keen eye towards that which makes life worth living, interfaith minister, mom and perpetual seeker Barbara Becker recounts stories where life and death intersect in unexpected ways. She volunteers on a hospice floor, becomes an eager student of the many ways people find meaning at the end of life, and accompanies her parents in their final days. Becker inspires readers to live with the end in mind and proves that turning toward loss rather than away from it is the only true way to live life to its fullest. Just as with the heartwood of a tree-the central core that is no longer alive but is supported by newer growth rings-the dead become the heart of the living. With life-affirming prose, Becker helps us see that that grief is not a problem to be solved, but rather a sacred invitation--an opportunity to let go into something even greater...a love that will inform all the days of our lives"--
ISBN: 1250095980
ISBN13: 9781250095985
Author: Barbara Becker
Publisher: Flatiron Books
Format: Hardcover
PublicationDate: 2021-05-11
Language: English
PageCount: 224
Dimensions: 5.39 x 0.89 x 7.51 inches
Weight: 8.8 ounces

"We can do extraordinary things when we lead with love," Barbara Becker reminds us in her debut memoir Heartwood.

When her earliest childhood friend is diagnosed with a terminal illness, Becker sets off on a quest to immerse herself in what it means to be mortal. Can we live our lives more fully knowing some day we will die? With a keen eye towards that which makes life worth living, Barbara Becker--a perpetual seeker, a mom, and an interfaith leader--recounts stories where life and death intersect in unexpected ways. She volunteers on a hospice floor, becomes an eager student of the many ways people find meaning at the end of life, and accompanies her parents in their final days. Becker inspires readers to live with the end in mind and proves that turning toward loss rather than away from it is the only true way to live life to its fullest. Just as with the heartwood of a tree--the central core that is no longer alive yet supports the newer growth rings--the dead become an enduring source of strength to the living. With life-affirming prose, Becker helps us see that that grief is not a problem to be solved, but rather a sacred invitation--an opportunity to let go into something even greater...a love that will inform all the days of our lives.
Editorial Reviews


In Heartwood, Barbara Becker inspires us to follow our curiosity into a world that is both universal and a source of our uniqueness. And what could be better than that?--Gloria Steinem, bestselling author and activist


"Death fascinates and repels us. Barbara Becker has written a gorgeous book about it, and her writing will draw in everyone who is willing to approach the most serious topic we all must face. Becker gives the reader empathic access to some of life's peak moments, along with insights into life's biggest questions.

-
Jonathan Haidt, Professor, NYU-Stern School of Business, author of The Righteous Mind

Heartwood is a luminous book...Within the first few pages I knew I could trust Barbara Becker to navigate the holy land of death and grief and take me with her...
I have rarely read a book that left me feeling so fundamentally blessed. Highly recommended.

--
Mirabai Starr, author of Caravan of No Despair and Wild Mercy
"Both tear-jerking and joyful,
Heartwood reveals how an intimate conversation with loss can bring forth the 'forever' possible through love. Across time zones, generations, and cultural divides."


--Sarah Bowen, author of
Spiritual Rebel: A Positively Addictive Guide to Finding Deeper Perspective and Higher Purpose A powerful and exquisite book on being with dying and learning from loss that is written from the marrow of real experience and as well from the heart. It is a courageous exploration of grief, death, and release. This is a book that uplifts, instructs, inspires, and guides. -
Roshi Joan Halifax, Abbot, Upaya Zen Center
"
Heartwood is wise and moving without a wasted word.
Becker's luminous meditation on death and life is a gift to us all.
--Dave Isay, founder of StoryCorps
"
Heartwood is a gem."
--Dr. Denis Mukwege, Nobel Peace Prize laureate, author of forthcoming
The Power of Women: Learning from Resilience to Heal Our World Becker takes us on a poignant journey through her life in Heartwood. She shows us the threads connecting herself to ones who passed and with each tug on a thread we learn more about love and loss, life and death. Precious stories that have the power to move your heart,
this book is a true gift.--
Sharon Salzberg, author of Real Love and Real Change
"Becker debuts with a stirring chronicle of the events, moments, and stories that led to her reconciliation with mortality...Becker's eloquence is a salve for confronting a difficult topic...This will be a comfort for anyone contemplating their own mortality, or those in search of advice for others."--
Publishers Weekly Starred Review A graceful meditation on divine deliverance...Once firmly entrenched in our "death-shy" contemporary culture, the author is now a reassuring advocate for peace and interreligious understanding, and she views dying as an opportunity to seek enlightenment and give thanks, regardless of one's preferred spiritual path. -
Kirkus


A resource filled with wisdom and one that readers will find themselves returning to often in both good times and bad.
- Shelf Awareness An affecting and informative memoir about the lessons we can glean from life as well as death.
- Library Journal



Barbara Becker has dedicated more than twenty-five years to partnering with human-rights advocates around the world in pursuit of peace and interreligious understanding. She has worked with the United Nations, Human Rights First, the Ms. Foundation for Women, and the Grameen Bank of Bangladesh, and has participated in a delegation of Zen Peacemakers and Lakota elders in the sacred Black Hills of South Dakota. She is an ordained interfaith minister and has sat with hundreds of people as a hospice volunteer. She lives in New York City with her husband and two sons.

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  • Used - Acceptable: All pages and the cover are intact, but shrink wrap, dust covers, or boxed set case may be missing. Pages may include limited notes, highlighting, or minor water damage but the text is readable. Item may but the dust cover may be missing. Pages may include limited notes and highlighting, but the text cannot be obscured or unreadable.

Note: Some electronic material access codes are valid only for one user. For this reason, used books, including books listed in the Used – Like New condition, may not come with functional electronic material access codes.

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  • Packages are shipped from Monday to Friday.
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Estimated delivery times:

  • Standard Shipping: 5-8 business days
  • Expedited Shipping: 3-5 business days

Shipping method varies depending on what is being shipped.  

Tracking
All orders are shipped with a tracking number. Once your order has left our warehouse, a confirmation e-mail with a tracking number will be sent to you. You will be able to track your package at all times. 

Damaged Parcel
If your package has been delivered in a PO Box, please note that we are not responsible for any damage that may result (consequences of extreme temperatures, theft, etc.). 

If you have any questions regarding shipping or want to know about the status of an order, please contact us or email to support@stevensbooks.com.

You may return most items within 30 days of delivery for a full refund.

To be eligible for a return, your item must be unused and in the same condition that you received it. It must also be in the original packaging.

Several types of goods are exempt from being returned. Perishable goods such as food, flowers, newspapers or magazines cannot be returned. We also do not accept products that are intimate or sanitary goods, hazardous materials, or flammable liquids or gases.

Additional non-returnable items:

  • Gift cards
  • Downloadable software products
  • Some health and personal care items

To complete your return, we require a tracking number, which shows the items which you already returned to us.
There are certain situations where only partial refunds are granted (if applicable)

  • Book with obvious signs of use
  • CD, DVD, VHS tape, software, video game, cassette tape, or vinyl record that has been opened
  • Any item not in its original condition, is damaged or missing parts for reasons not due to our error
  • Any item that is returned more than 30 days after delivery

Items returned to us as a result of our error will receive a full refund,some returns may be subject to a restocking fee of 7% of the total item price, please contact a customer care team member to see if your return is subject. Returns that arrived on time and were as described are subject to a restocking fee.

Items returned to us that were not the result of our error, including items returned to us due to an invalid or incomplete address, will be refunded the original item price less our standard restocking fees.

If the item is returned to us for any of the following reasons, a 15% restocking fee will be applied to your refund total and you will be asked to pay for return shipping:

  • Item(s) no longer needed or wanted.
  • Item(s) returned to us due to an invalid or incomplete address.
  • Item(s) returned to us that were not a result of our error.

You should expect to receive your refund within four weeks of giving your package to the return shipper, however, in many cases you will receive a refund more quickly. This time period includes the transit time for us to receive your return from the shipper (5 to 10 business days), the time it takes us to process your return once we receive it (3 to 5 business days), and the time it takes your bank to process our refund request (5 to 10 business days).

If you need to return an item, please Contact Us with your order number and details about the product you would like to return. We will respond quickly with instructions for how to return items from your order.


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