To Nurse Means to Nurture Part Two: The Parent Role of the Nurse with All Ages of Patients
To Nurse Means to Nurture Part Two: The Parent Role of the Nurse with All Ages of Patients
Overview
In the first book about nurse/patient relationships "To Nurse Means to Nurture: The Need for Nurses to Comfort Their Patients" I wanted to prove by research that it is in fact the responsibility of the nurse to comfort their patients and that includes being willing to touch their patients and show them affection. In this book, I am showing how the nurse is the "mother surrogate" but that the team of nurses is the "pseudo family" of the patient and all of them are supposed to comfort their patients and show them affection. I also wanted to show how nurses are supposed to allow the patient to regress and act childlike and be able to ask childlike requests for their childlike needs. And, if at any point the patient should say or do anything to offend the nurse, they are to try to figure out the cause of the behavior that offends them based on the patients own individuality and not what they may falsely assume they mean. If they are offended they need to blow it over and be willing to forgive the patient for saying or doing things that offend them or make them feel weird or uncomfortable without showing condemnation toward them. They are supposed to forgive the patient of any mishaps and continue to treat the patient with the same friendly compassionate comfort and care they always have before they even got offended. In the case of people with autism, some may say some really strange things or make really unusual requests that may seem mischievous in nature from the perspective of what a normal person would mean if they said the same thing, yet what they say that appears mischievous in nature is really an innocent request. It is very easy to misinterpret what an autistic patient wants or is saying. The emotions of what they want and what they feel may be totally different from what a normal person would mean by the same thing and they can be very innocent for asking the question and still bein danger of a scolding harsh lecture by a nurse because the nurse assumed the worst of what they said without first seeing the real reason they were making request. Autistic people have many sensory issues that have to be taken care of and need to be met that may seem strange to you but these sensory problems are very real and can only be relieved by what they are asking you. Nurses need to be very careful not to misinterpret what these people are saying or asking and not prejudge the motives of the autistic individual because unnecessary scolding for bad behavior based on an innocent request will likely be the result. In most instances that nurses do this and figure out later what is really going on, the autistic patient's feelings have already been badly hurt, their needs have gone unmet, and it psychologically hurts their well being. Please make sure to listen to your patients, figure out what is going on before you judge, and be willing to forgive them and go on if you are still offended. With me, I still need your affection and attention and your love and hugs after I mess up and when I don't receive this and get the cold shoulder treatment forever it actually causes me to fall into a deep depression and causes me to lose my will to live. Please be careful what you do and continue to show your loving compassionate care no matter what your patients say think or do to offend you and make you feel weird. Thank you. Your friend, Brian Gene EvansDescription
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Overview
In the first book about nurse/patient relationships "To Nurse Means to Nurture: The Need for Nurses to Comfort Their Patients" I wanted to prove by research that it is in fact the responsibility of the nurse to comfort their patients and that includes being willing to touch their patients and show them affection. In this book, I am showing how the nurse is the "mother surrogate" but that the team of nurses is the "pseudo family" of the patient and all of them are supposed to comfort their patients and show them affection. I also wanted to show how nurses are supposed to allow the patient to regress and act childlike and be able to ask childlike requests for their childlike needs. And, if at any point the patient should say or do anything to offend the nurse, they are to try to figure out the cause of the behavior that offends them based on the patients own individuality and not what they may falsely assume they mean. If they are offended they need to blow it over and be willing to forgive the patient for saying or doing things that offend them or make them feel weird or uncomfortable without showing condemnation toward them. They are supposed to forgive the patient of any mishaps and continue to treat the patient with the same friendly compassionate comfort and care they always have before they even got offended. In the case of people with autism, some may say some really strange things or make really unusual requests that may seem mischievous in nature from the perspective of what a normal person would mean if they said the same thing, yet what they say that appears mischievous in nature is really an innocent request. It is very easy to misinterpret what an autistic patient wants or is saying. The emotions of what they want and what they feel may be totally different from what a normal person would mean by the same thing and they can be very innocent for asking the question and still bein danger of a scolding harsh lecture by a nurse because the nurse assumed the worst of what they said without first seeing the real reason they were making request. Autistic people have many sensory issues that have to be taken care of and need to be met that may seem strange to you but these sensory problems are very real and can only be relieved by what they are asking you. Nurses need to be very careful not to misinterpret what these people are saying or asking and not prejudge the motives of the autistic individual because unnecessary scolding for bad behavior based on an innocent request will likely be the result. In most instances that nurses do this and figure out later what is really going on, the autistic patient's feelings have already been badly hurt, their needs have gone unmet, and it psychologically hurts their well being. Please make sure to listen to your patients, figure out what is going on before you judge, and be willing to forgive them and go on if you are still offended. With me, I still need your affection and attention and your love and hugs after I mess up and when I don't receive this and get the cold shoulder treatment forever it actually causes me to fall into a deep depression and causes me to lose my will to live. Please be careful what you do and continue to show your loving compassionate care no matter what your patients say think or do to offend you and make you feel weird. Thank you. Your friend, Brian Gene EvansDescription
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- Used - Acceptable: All pages and the cover are intact, but shrink wrap, dust covers, or boxed set case may be missing. Pages may include limited notes, highlighting, or minor water damage but the text is readable. Item may but the dust cover may be missing. Pages may include limited notes and highlighting, but the text cannot be obscured or unreadable.
Note: Some electronic material access codes are valid only for one user. For this reason, used books, including books listed in the Used – Like New condition, may not come with functional electronic material access codes.
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Several types of goods are exempt from being returned. Perishable goods such as food, flowers, newspapers or magazines cannot be returned. We also do not accept products that are intimate or sanitary goods, hazardous materials, or flammable liquids or gases.
Additional non-returnable items:
- Gift cards
- Downloadable software products
- Some health and personal care items
To complete your return, we require a tracking number, which shows the items which you already returned to us.
There are certain situations where only partial refunds are granted (if applicable)
- Book with obvious signs of use
- CD, DVD, VHS tape, software, video game, cassette tape, or vinyl record that has been opened
- Any item not in its original condition, is damaged or missing parts for reasons not due to our error
- Any item that is returned more than 30 days after delivery
Items returned to us as a result of our error will receive a full refund,some returns may be subject to a restocking fee of 7% of the total item price, please contact a customer care team member to see if your return is subject. Returns that arrived on time and were as described are subject to a restocking fee.
Items returned to us that were not the result of our error, including items returned to us due to an invalid or incomplete address, will be refunded the original item price less our standard restocking fees.
If the item is returned to us for any of the following reasons, a 15% restocking fee will be applied to your refund total and you will be asked to pay for return shipping:
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- Item(s) returned to us due to an invalid or incomplete address.
- Item(s) returned to us that were not a result of our error.
You should expect to receive your refund within four weeks of giving your package to the return shipper, however, in many cases you will receive a refund more quickly. This time period includes the transit time for us to receive your return from the shipper (5 to 10 business days), the time it takes us to process your return once we receive it (3 to 5 business days), and the time it takes your bank to process our refund request (5 to 10 business days).
If you need to return an item, please Contact Us with your order number and details about the product you would like to return. We will respond quickly with instructions for how to return items from your order.
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Depending on where you live, the time it may take for your exchanged product to reach you, may vary.
If you are shipping an item over $75, you should consider using a trackable shipping service or purchasing shipping insurance. We don’t guarantee that we will receive your returned item.
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